As I'm coming to see clearly my desire to have control over people because I've grown up with traumatic events that led me to feel like I lost grip of life- so for me to prohibit those emotions again I try to control the people in my life to not repeat those emotions. But I realized that this skewed vision of my past negatively affects me from living in the present. Therefore as of now all I can do is get into the practice of [daily] making myself control no one but myself. I have to get into the habit to form a lifestyle of letting go- the past, people, my expectations and being able to look only to myself. Eventually being able to stabilize enough confidence to look to God without being scared and out of control when things don't go my way.
I try to control people but I am coming to see clearly that I also try to control God! When I see life not going my way I panic and try gripping life into my control by playing the role of God of my life: stressing out and being an emotional havoc then eventually looking to people to control my life. Losing myself in the process. Its all a spiraling downfall! But when I am in total surrender to not controlling how people treat me but learn to appreciate them for who they are and being able to surrender to God and what he will do, I see that it gives me the freedom to just sit back and relax and just "let go" of life [things I can't control but to control what I can control] and just let life happen...
"Philosophical and religious thinkers often define happiness in terms of living a good life rather than simply as an emotion"
-Live Productively
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